Friday, October 23, 2009

Making Space for the New

A lot of us spend time wishing things were different. We want novelty in our lives- in our homes, jobs, relationships, you name it. However we keep clinging on to old things, habits and thought patterns that only re-create what we already know.

If we want our lives to be different from anything in our prior existence, if we truly want to freshen things up, we need to make space for it.

Let's say you want to purchase a brand new dining room table that suits your current taste better. You've already got your dining room with an old table that you wish to replace. Can you put the new one in its designated space with the old one still occupying it?

It's the same thing with the rest of our stuff. If you want to update your wardrobe, you're going to need the space in your closet to store the new clothes in, so at least part of the old must go. If you're in an unhealthy relationship and you'd like to improve your love life, sometimes the answer is letting go of the damaging one (or at least the damaging attitudes), to be able to open the doors to better relating. If there's something you're usually afraid of and you're tired of the way you react to it, you're going to have to investigate and learn new positive approaches that would not work as well if you keep pulling yourself down by continuing to allow and uncontrolled stream of the self-defeating thoughts. You've got to let go of the old to embrace the new.

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