Friday, February 25, 2005

Making Babies

There is a man here that is beautiful... but that is not the point.

Lately a few people have been trying to convince me to seriously consider having children- as if that was the only point of being alive. I think you can live a fullfilling, complete, love-filled, amazing life without necessarily embarking on the offspring journey. I imagine it can be a lovely one, yes, but not everyone is born to make babies. Who knows if I do someday, but if I remain on the I don't think I will side of the issue, it can be equally awesome. If you feel so strongly about people having children, then have your own! :)

Beautiful men don't necessarily have to upload their genes into all human female eggs. (By the way, when you eat chicken eggs, you eat their menstruation. Sorry, but it's true.)

Anyway, there are other things men can be great at. And there are other things I can excel at as well. More later!

Continued...

Oddly enough the persuasive wannabes are not even remotely close to be considered my friends. (People from work, o el asunto de produccion de eventos.) But it's funny how they take it so personally, as if I were eliminating their uterus by proclaiming my right.

They say que la gente que no tiene hijos tiene una vejez muy solitaria. O sea, if that's my concern, I'll get a companion when I'm old, no me chuparia 40 años de unwanted pela solely para eso. Tambien dice que ellos entretienen y te dan un proposito de vida. O sea, children are not things. They are not a movie you can pop into you DVD player, or a teddy bear to squish and squash. They are souls with their own purposes, their own selves to fulfill.

Y quien dijo que no se puede tener direccion si no existe otra persona en tu vida que te la de? Hellow! Ojala que yo nunca me tope con alguien que espere a que yo le diga que hacer. Se supone que cada quien tenga sus metas y sus aspiraciones- y si tener hijos es parte de, amen. Ahora, si esperas que el tener hijos va a dictar lo que debes hacer con tu vida, si crees que eso resolvera los problemas que no vas a resolver sino poner a un lado para distraerte en otra cosa, si crees que tener hijos te diran QUIEN ERES, entonces estas en un hoyo.

Se pueden tener metas, se pueden resolver los problemas, se puede uno definir como persona por si solo. Y si lo piensas, en realidad, nadie lo puede hacer por ti.

A la gente que tiene hijos por esas razones, que les pasa? Los hijos despues crecen y se van. Puede ser que hasta los padres- super amorosos y todo- le caigan mal a los hijos. Y que harias? Y despues que se vayan en la casa, o adolescentes se tranquen the whole day en su habitacion? Ya dejarias de tener vida?

En esos casos la gente se encuentra vacia despues... sin saber que hacer consigo mismo. Los problemas de pareja que no se resolvieron, pensando que un bebe lo haria, se encuentran mucho peor. Se dan cuenta esos padres que han dejado de comunicarse, y lo unico que ahora tienen en comun es un hijo con sus dos apellidos. Pero la pareja en si murio mientras el hijo vivio. Y eso lo sienten los niños. Kids love it when their parents are happy.

Tambien existen aquellos que lo hacen para atar a su "amado". Which of course means unhappiness. It doesn't work.

Pero nada, of course, everyone has the right to choose what they want. It's just that, not everyone has to fill a mold. Not everyone is born to make babies.

And if you choose to have a kid, please do it for the right reasons.

2 comments:

Gabs said...

Definitely beautiful men - and all men - are good for a lot more than loading sperm. (even though you have so much fun trying). And women are good for a LOT more than child bearing. I don't think BY FAR that it's for everyone, and it's time we all realized we are not one dimensional creatures and that having babies is not the purpose in every woman's life. P.S. Now who the heck is pressuring you about having babies?!?!

Chelle said...

i added my reply up there, en el art.