Saturday, July 02, 2005


I cannot tell you exactly where I got this pic. It's from an... um, ex is not the word. What should I call him? Well, whatever the term would be for the owner of the computer I am writing from. He's got pics of himself saved here as well. Very nice looking man. Regardless of that fact, this pic is very pretty and it represents in many ways what the point of life is; "where" evolution leads. And I say "where" because it's really not a place, it's more of a state. But it's easier for us to grasp it in symbols, thus this representation of a stairway that leads to the sky.

I was thinking today about decision making. There are so many choices to make, and the quality of our lives depend on the quality of our choices. However, this doesn't mean we're going to stop electing. If we would our development would stagnate. My wondering was more about the compromise represented when we make a choice, and what follows if the result is not what we thought it would be. This pondering was the result of what I call the Black Belt Syndrome: I expect to be perfect at things with a first attempt. Just a tad unrealistic, huh? (I'll explain where it came from on a future post.)

Anyway, I was thinking about this just after meditation, as the yoga instructor spoke about each of us being the engineers of our lives. And then, as if she heard my thoughts, she proceeded to say that we build our lives by the decisions we make, doing our best in each situation. If something doesn't turn out the way we want it to, we simply continue making the elections we need to make in order to transform it into what we want it to be. But we have to continue living, and we can make a conscious effort to improve everyday.

My unasked question was answered. Well, orally unasked- it was well formulated in thought.

So, I understand that I need to use my time and energy wisely and select from the options I have to create my experiences. I should do this with detachment from the outcome, knowing that it might not turn out as I wish. If it doesn't, that is not the end of the world. As I am the architect, I simply re-design, until it looks how I want it to look. Through my direct experience I learn which decisions produce what. Each time I try to make more refined selections, upgrading the quality of my life. And the beauty is that it always goes on. We have endless chances of getting it right, so I don't have to be a Black Belt from the first try.


arjuna's dilemma said...

Nonattachment is very important... though easier said than done.

There would probably be less suffering if we were less fixed on things coming out a certain way.

Chelle said...

Yups. I often quote Dr. Chopra when he says, "Attachment is not love."

I think one can love more when there's not that enslaving dependence about it. Free is more real.

Shirazi said...

Nice pic and very apt explanation. To me it reminds of going into the unknown. Thanks for putting this here.

Chelle said...

Thanks and You're welcome! :)