i can only be sure of my priorities and goals, not of yours. i have to take care of mine, you have to take care of yours. even if we motivate and support each other in the process.
i am the one i have to deal with. i am the one who has to deal with me. i cannot expect you to solve my issues, nor should i wish this. i have to continue doing more things for me.
i can love you, but i cannot love you for you. that's like trying to chew your food and swallow it for it to go to your stomach. there's some things you gotta do for yourself.
stash away the savior complex, or better yet, delete it. the best way of helping others is helping yourself. that's like if you wanna be huge on charity, the best way to do it is to first get lots of money. you can't give lots of money if you don't have lots of money. and if you help yourself, you will automatically say nicer things, have a stronger arm when you need to lend a hand, and give a more inspiring example.
being is better than talking. talk if you ARE, not if you're NOT. meaning what you say and saying what you mean simplifies life beautifully.