A lot of the time things won't go the way we want them to. And they don't have to. A lot of the time we won't be how we wish we would be. We will put in the leg.
The good thing about this is that we become aware of things that we need to improve.
It's not about how it would look. It's about what we need to live and what we need to learn. This is different for all of us, because all of us are different. We will not understand everyone, and we will not be understood by everyone. Happiness is not found in seeking this approval.
The most important thing is for you to be at peace with yourself, and, if you believe, also with God. Life.... will carry on.